Joy, lightness and space went out of the window!
It’s ‘Fascinating’ ….. it didn’t occur to me until recently that I’d actually seen the perfect housing option weeks ago – only after having seen made aware of the sparsity of other options there are out there – and naturally after it had already been taken by someone else. Or perhaps ‘frustrating’ is a more appropriate word….. or perhaps even ‘painful crippling REGRET’. Regret, I learned, is a mixture of sadness and anger which is difficult to shake off. I was led astray from my positive gut feeling about an apartment when my head took over the controls and made a bad decision. In this process I also learned that it was normal for my Chinese relocation agent to swiftly accept my irrational decision without questioning it. He said ‘I understand’ but much later explained that he was disappointed and perplexed by my decision – so apparently it is not customary to disagree with your ’employer’. I’ve also learned that it’s necessary to reduce my expectations on the quality of housing here. So we’re sticking with that nice apartment I spoke of last week – but which is far from school and even further from Sebastien’s work.
I’ve thus had a week of sadness and anger (as much related to losing the home as to not remaining true to my feelings). Fortunately as with everything, this too shall pass…….. I just don’t know when. Oh yes I do! (thanks to my friend Auna Salome): it will pass when I choose for it to end.
Lesson #1 (again!) = FOLLOW YOUR HEART
Lesson #2 (again!) = STAY IN THE PRESENT MOMENT, don’t dwell on past events.
On a ‘lighter’ note, I took the kids to the Flower, Bird, Fish and Insect Market. My son loved it but my daughter was (quite rightly) concerned about the sizes of cages…….and the smell.
We went to sample green tea in a quaint little tea shop where gesture got us through. My limited Chinese led me to believe that he had 1 son, but he may very well have been talking about something else!
We caught-up with some other Shanghai Mamas at an indoor play area – to beat the heat.
We’ve also been swimming nearly every day. My daughter was thrilled to be able to swim unaided for the first time and my son to jump in to the pool ‘all by myself’ (with the assistance of an inflatable device).
‘Shanghighs‘: My daughter composing some fabulous songs in French, also preparing family meals (see below) and having her first independent swim AND her first loose tooth. She asked someone to translate ‘I have a loose tooth’on to a piece of paper so that she can share this exciting news with everyone.
‘Shanglows‘: Refer to above!, husband being away all week in France, my son drawing on the hotel room walls,
‘Shangunusuals‘: The quantity of oil used in cooking: I swiftly bought some vegetable oil (against my personal preference) because after preparing only a couple of dishes, I noticed that our baby-sitter/ayi had used almost half a bottle of $15 dollar olive oil (all imported foods are very precious here). Mind you, the dishes were good. And whilst on the subject of food, the children have had ‘snacky’ things offered to them by complete strangers on a daily basis – something that pleases them (but not me) no end.