Happy with uncertainty and change?

484926_443140925723267_1162220661_n ……. this is one way to react to uncertainty….






…..and this is another


“To see things in their true proportion, to escape the magnifying influence of a morbid imagination, should be one of the chief aims of life.” William Edward Hartpole Lecky. Why heck YES!

10 years ago I read the book “Who Moved My Cheese – Spencer Johnson (I know this because my dear friend Frank wrote inside the copy that he gave me: “Move with the cheese” – March 2005) It’s a great quick read for anyone having a hard time dealing with changes in life (big or small) and Frank must have known I’d benefit from it (Unlike him, I’m really not someone who naturally seeks change!). It is a nice reminder of the importance of adapting to change. “The biggest inhibitor to change lies within yourself, nothing gets better until you change.”

Being more ‘flexible’ has been one of my ongoing resolutions.

I recently read the book “I moved your cheese’- Deepak Malhotra (whose title I couldn’t ignore) which acts as a kind of extension to this message and encourages people to take more control over their future (and to not accept change blindly).  It sets out to help readers to change their behavior AND their circumstances.

The same idea is reflected in this quote: “There is a myth, sometimes widespread, that a person need only do inner work…that a man is entirely responsible for his own problems; and that to cure himself, he need only change himself…The fact is, a person is so formed by his surroundings, that his state of harmony depends entirely on his harmony with his surroundings.” Christopher Alexander644113_444066308964062_809204550_n

So: Be more flexible….. but aim to live in harmonious surroundings too.

I am focussing on ‘change’ at the moment because that’s what’s in store for us…again……. Last November I mentioned that there were changes in the company for which my husband works…….and well, he has chosen to take a different path- and we will be leaving Shanghai in July…….destination ….FRANCE! While we are aiming for the department of Vendee on the west coast (atleast temporarily) we have yet to find a house, or car, or school……….

“But didn’t you just move to China!?” I hear you ask.

We will have been living here in Shanghai for 2 years which was more-or-less what we anticipated. It’s the time for expat movement – 6 of my son’s closest friends will also be departing as will 2 of my daughter’s good friends. This period of the year is particularly tough for the expat community – very difficult to stay when many of your friends are leaving but also difficult to leave. Right now I am feeling like I’m in the eye of a great big storm………actually that’s not a good analogy as it suggests that I’m feeling calm……………………

Let’s hope that I can find a harmonious community at our next destination – although that could be a challenge – something I’ll explore further in a future post on repatriation.


Shanghighs‘:A visit to the Power Station of Art with the kids and the work of Yona Friedman.

Shanghlows‘: Coming to terms with the idea of moving yet again …plus all of the emotions and logistics involved in that.

Shangunusuals‘: talk about ‘drive-through’ (below), this customer drove onto the pavement to help-himself to the street-food (note: this is not actually that unusual)



2 comments on “Happy with uncertainty and change?

  1. Delphine says:

    Ça y est…c’est officiel….nouveau départ et nouvelle vie qui commence!!
    Que de richesses et de chemin parcouru depuis 2008…3 pays radicalement différents, deux enfants, de belles amitiés révélées à ces différents coin du monde…Alors, c’est vrai que le changement doit être perturbant mais tout ce que vous avez vécu pendant ces années est néanmoins exceptionnel!
    J’essaierai de trouver la traduction des livres dont tu parles dans ton dernier blog. Et merci pour ces belles reflexions que tu nius fait partager tout le long de ton parcours!
    Bon courage et à tres bientot….en France!!
    Bisous à tous les 4

  2. Delphine, tu peux ‘totally’ lire les livres en anglais! Oui 7 ans pleins des hauts et des bas, mais il faut dire que je me sens sur une pente descendante en ce moment 😦

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